Then there were students posting memos reminding the rest of us "less-than-holy" peers not to get caught up in romance & our hormones to avoid descending into the "darkness" & "path of sin". I laughed out loud & sighed with frustration reading the immature statements of so-called university students. It just shows how ignorant young adults can be; recap Indonesian students condemning condom use as legalizing casual sex.
I've a few things to say:
Prohibiting doesn't work
We've been advising people not to "couple up" so as to avoid the risk of having sex but unwanted pregnancies still happen. No matter how the authorities may TRY to stop guys & gals from mingling & going out dating, humans will be humans ie. rebellious & curious. Throw in hormones & you've a potent mix. It's silly to stop couples from going out because they're determined to go out anyway & we're not sending the message that we're suppose to deliver: practice caution. Discouraging communication between the opposite genders will either create gals who are too frightened to talk to a guy because, hey, he's thinking of drilling you, or guys who are hell-bent on getting laid when all restrictions are off.
Educate to protect
One problem with our society is that sex is still a taboo topic, despite our exposure to free information & the globalization of our nation. It's amusing to note that even full-grown adults can consider sex as a duty of a wife to her husband, that it's disgusting & it'll make a girl wanna kill herself (yes, I've heard crap like that before). What our society needs is HONESTY. Talk to us, talk to our children about what sex is, about the consequences, about the options available. I don't condone casual sex but I am an advocate of SAFE SEX. Control your lust if you must, but if all else fails, at least you know you can protect yourself & your partner.
Respect Our Women
To the guys who say:
1) "if you love me, you'll have sex with me"
2) "she deserved to be raped coz she dressed so sexily"
3) "it's your fault that you're pregnant"
My response? Screw you. Respect the female race. We are mothers, sisters, daughters, aunts, cousins, nieces...if one of your female relatives were caught up in rape/unwanted pregnancies, would you condemn them? I HATE it when some guys simply assume that it's the woman's fault that she got knocked up. Have you ever thought where the freaking sperm came from? This degrading view of women has to go if we want to move forward. Treat your girlfriend/partner with respect. No means no. A pregnancy is a shared responsibility, not the burden of one person alone. If the couple is willing to talk through the issue, that poor woman in the earlier news article probably won't have her fetus STOMPED out of her womb.
RIP to the unidentified woman in that news article. RIP to the innocent babies dumped like garbage. I sincerely hope there'll be a brighter & more secure future for Malaysian women. We deserved to feel safe & we deserve to be taken care of, not accused of being the guise of Satan to lure "holy" men from the path of righteousness. So yes, I'm writing out of fury, but no one deserves to have her body violated like that.